Married In Adultery

Can people be married in adultery?

Usually when people think of someone committing adultery, they think of a married person having sex with someone other than their spouse.  They do not think that people can be committing adultery when they are having sex with their spouse.

Is this view of adultery correct?  Or can people commit adultery with their spouse?

In order to answer this question, we have to understand the basics of marriage, adultery, divorce, and remarriage.  The best way to understand those things is to see what the Book of Truth (The Bible) says about them.

The Basics of Marriage:

The Father of Truth (YHVH aka God aka THE LORD) created men and women to fill the Earth with people (Genesis 1:27-28).  He started by creating the man (Genesis 2:7-8).

However, it was not good for the man to be alone without an adequate helper (Genesis 2:18-20).  So the Father of Truth created a woman to help the man (Genesis 2:21-22).

Then the man married the woman and set the foundational rule that people leave their parents to form new families with their spouse when they are married (Genesis 2:23-24).  There was nothing that the married couple kept hidden from each other (Genesis 2:25).

Later the married couple broke the commandment of the Father of Truth and shame came into their marriage (Genesis 3:6-7).  So they were afraid to be in His presence because of their sin (Genesis 3:8-12).

Since the woman was fooled in disobedience, then women would have pain in all things related to childbirth while strongly desiring to have sex with their husbands and being placed under the authority of their husbands to keep them from being fooled again (Genesis 3:13-16).  Since the man willing obeyed his wife instead of the Father of Truth, every man would have to work hard to provide even the barest necessities for his family until the day he died (Genesis 3:17-19).

So wives are to obey their husbands, just as their husbands are to obey the Man of Truth (Yeshua HaMashiach aka Jesus Christ) instead of his wife (Ephesians 5:22-24).  Their husbands are to love them and protect them from the deceiver just the Man of Truth has done for their husbands (Ephesians 5:25-27).

In like manner, husbands and wives are supposed to have sex with each other and only each other (1 Corinthians 7:2).  This is a commandment of the Father of Truth and not keeping it is the same as stealing from their spouse (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

So, married couples must give as much sex as their spouses need when it is the right time for love.  If they do not, then they are liars and thieves.

This commandment concerning sex is the foundation of marriage.  There are other obligations as well that are spelled out in the Ketubah (marriage covenant) contained in the Book of Truth.

The Basics of Adultery:

So, what happens when people have sex outside of a marriage between a man and his woman?  What if a wife has sex with a man who is not her husband or a man has sex with a woman who is not his wife?

Any time that people have sex other than the right partnership for love then they are committing fornication.  Adultery is really a specific type of fornication.

The Father of Truth commands that people do not commit adultery just like He commands that they do not commit murder or theft (Exodus 20:13-15).  Committing adultery is as serious as committing murder and demands the same penalty of death for both people involved (Leviticus 20:10).

Like murder, no one can be executed for committing adultery unless there are at least two witnesses and those witnesses have to be the first to begin the execution (Deuteronomy 17:6-7).  For this reason, the Man of Truth could not condemn the woman who was caught in adultery to death after her accusers left (John 8:4-11).

The Basics of Divorce

What about if two people commit adultery and there is only one witness?  Or when there are no witnesses?

A man who commits adultery has defiled himself with sexual uncleanness even if there are no witnesses (Leviticus 18:20).  If a woman commits adultery, but is not caught, then she has still defiled herself with sexual uncleanness (Numbers 5:12-14).

Even though the woman was not caught when she committed adultery, she has still defiled herself with sexual uncleanness and is under the curse of the Father of Truth (Numbers 5:19-21).  Her husband has done nothing wrong if he suspected his wife has committed adultery and sought to determine the truth of the matter – even if she was innocent (Numbers 5:29-31).

If the woman had defiled herself with sexual uncleanness, then her husband can give her a bill of divorcement and send her out of his house (Deuteronomy 24:1).  This is the only cause for a man to give his wife a bill of divorce (Matthew 5:31-32).

If a woman leaves her husband without him divorcing her for sexual uncleanness, then she has dealt treacherously with him (Jeremiah 3:20).  If a man divorces his wife who has not committed adultery, then he has dealt treacherously with her (Malachi 2:14).

If a wife who is in covenant with the Father of Truth tries to get her husband to worship any god besides the Father of Truth, then her husband is to have her tried in accordance to the Law of Truth and then executed (Deuteronomy 13:6-9).  If people breaks their covenant with the Father of Truth by worshiping any other god, then they have committed adultery against the Father of Truth and He will divorce them (Jeremiah 3:8-9).

A man also breaks his covenant with Father of Truth by marrying a woman who does not worship the Father of Truth, who will cause the man to commit adultery against Him by enticing him to worship her idols (Nehemiah 13:25-27).  In those circumstances, the man must divorce his wife rather than commit adultery against the Father of Truth (Ezra 10:2-3).

Lastly, if a man or woman comes into covenant with the Father of Truth, but their spouse does not, then they are not to divorce their unbelieving spouse who is willing to live with them (1 Corinthians 7:12-13).  However, their unbelieving spouse is not willing to live with them, then they are let the unbelieving spouse depart from them as if there was a divorce to keep them from committing adultery against the Father of Truth by being enticed to worship another god (1 Corinthians 7:15).

The Basics Of Remarriage

If there is a divorce due to physical adultery by a wife or to prevent spiritual adultery against the Father of Truth by a believer, then are those involved in the divorce allowed to remarry?  Are there other circumstances where remarriage is allowed?

If a man divorces his wife due to physical adultery, then she can marry another man without committing adultery against her former husband (Deuteronomy 24:1-2).  However, if she does this then she can no longer return to her former husband – even if her latter husband dies – because she has defiled herself with another man (Deuteronomy 24:3-4).

Also, if the husband dies childless, then his wife is required to marry his brother to give him a heir through his brother (Deuteronomy 25:5-6).  So once the husband dies, then his wife is free to remarry without committing adultery against him (Romans 7:2-3).

In fact, a widow must remarry to avoid fornication if she cannot control herself (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).  She must also remarry if she is less than sixty years old and cannot support herself without a husband (1 Timothy 5:9-14).

However, if a man divorces his wife for any reason other than adultery and she marries another man, then they are committing adultery against her former husband (Matthew 5:32).  If a man divorces his wife for any other reason and marries another woman, then they are committing adultery against his former wife (Matthew 19:9).

This is even true when a woman divorces her husband as allowed under Roman Law (Mark 10:11-12).  This is why John the Baptist (Yochanon the Mikveh Man) told Herod that it was not lawful for Herodias to be his wife after she got a divorce from his brother Philip under Roman Law, because she was still married to his brother Philip according to the Law of Truth since Philip had not given her a bill of divorce (Matthew 14:3-4).

So, these two were married in adultery according to the Father of Truth.  The same is true whenever anyone marries someone from a divorce for any reason other than adultery.

So, what should someone do who is married in adultery?

John the Baptist preached that people must repent to enter be fit for the kingdom of the Father of Truth (Matthew 3:1-2).  He said the only way to escape the wrath of the Father of Truth on sin was through actions that showed true repentance from sin (Matthew 3:7-8).

Therefore, he warned Herod that he was transgressing the Law of Truth by being married to Herodias -the wife of his brother Philip (Mark 6:17-18).  If Herod remained married to Herodias, then he would not have a part in the kingdom of the Father of Truth (Galatians 5:19-21).

Herodias was like Michal, who had married another man in accordance with the law of the land -even though her husband David had never given her a bill of divorce in accordance to the Law of Truth (1 Samuel 25:44).  So, King David demanded that Michal stop being married in adultery and return to him, since she was still his wife under the Law of Truth (2 Samuel 3:14-16).

So, a couple married in adultery must end the marriage even if they had children together (Ezra 10:44).  Those married in adultery must repent by ending their sin just like the woman caught in adultery (John 8:4-11).

Do not be deceived – anyone who remains married in adultery will not have a part of the kingdom of the Father of Truth (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).  If they do not repent of being married in adultery, then they will be cast into the Lake of Fire like all other fornicators (Revelation 21:8).

No matter how many times a woman remarries, there is no confusion about whose wife is she, according to the Book of Truth.  As shown above, she is married in adultery until her first husband either divorces her for her whoredom, or she returns to him, or he dies.

What if one or both of them are unhappy in their marriage?

Whoever has made an oath to the Father of Truth – like people do in their marriage vows to remain in their marriage for better or worse and forsake all others to be with their spouse – must perform whatever they have vowed (Numbers 30:2).  The Father of Truth has no pleasure in those who do not keep their wedding vows and it would have been better to have never made them than to break them (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5).

A couple simply must do everything they promised in their wedding vows – letting “I will” mean “I will” (Matthew 5:32-37).  Everyone who does otherwise comes under the condemnation of the Father of Truth (James 5:12).

For this reason, the Man of Truth commands that a wife to not leave her husband and her husband to not divorce her– even if they are unhappy (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).  Married couples are going to have times of trouble (1 Corinthians 7:28).

If a woman should disobey the Man of Truth by leaving her husband, then she must not marry another man, but instead must seek to be reconciled to her husband (1 Corinthians 7:11).  In like manner, the husband must not remain bitter against his wife (Colossians 3:19).s

The Father of Truth never intended for people to ever let anything except death to end their marriage (Matthew 19:4-6).  He only commanded that a husband could divorce his wife for sexual uncleanness due to the hardness of the hearts of people (Matthew 19:7-9).

If one of them commits adultery, then the will of the Father of Truth is that they repent and their spouse forgives them (Matthew 6:14-15).  If they repent, then their spouse needs to be tender hearted and forgive them as they were forgiven for the sake of the Man of Truth (Ephesians 4:32).

The Man of Truth was punished for their adultery and raised from the dead for their justification (Romans 4:25).  The Man of Truth took the curse for their adultery upon himself when he was hung on a tree (Galatians 3:13). 

If they repented of their adultery, then the blood of the Man of Truth washed away their sexual uncleanness (1 John 1:6-7).  If they confessed their guilt to the Man of Truth instead trying to justify their adultery, then he has made them clean (1 John 1:8-9).

So, come into the House of Truth by surrendering everything to the Man of Truth because you believe that the Father of Truth raised him from the dead (Romans 10:9).  His body will never be married in adultery (Ephesians 5:30-32).

Come into the House of Truth!

Dedicating the Temple

What does dedicating the temple really mean?

Chanukah (Hanukkah) is a festival celebrated by Jews world wide and especially in the United States of America. Chanukah has also came to be celebrated by many of the Children of Truth (followers of the Man of Truth) in the United States and other countries as well.  Why would the Children of Truth celebrate a Jewish holiday?  What does Chanukah have to do with following the Man of Truth ?

Chanukah means "dedication". In particular it is celebrating the Maccabees dedicating the Temple after driving out the Syrian king of Greek descent who had desecrated it.

This was the third time that the Temple had been dedicated.  The First Temple was dedicated by King Solomon (2 Chronicles 6:1-3). The First Temple was destroyed because of the disobedience of the Jews and then the Second Temple was commanded to be built when they returned to obedience (Ezra 5:11-13).  The Second Temple was then built in troublesome times as the Prophet of Truth had foretold (Daniel 9:25).  The Second Temple was then dedicated a second time by the people of Israel (Ezra 6:15-17).  Then the Syrian king of Greek descent desecrated the Second Temple after he was pushed out of Egypt as the Prophet of Truth had foretold (Daniel 11:29-31).  That is when the Maccabees rose up and drove out the Syrian king of Greek descent at great personal cost because of their dedication to the Father of Truth (YHVH aka God aka THE LORD) (Daniel 11:32-35).  After eight days of cleaning, the Second Temple was dedicated a second time.  This second dedication of the Second Temple is commemorated by the Feast of Dedication (Chanukah) that the Man of Truth (Yeshua HaMashiach aka Jesus Christ) celebrated at the Second Temple (John 10:22-23).

This Second Temple had been greatly expanded after the Maccabees by Herod the Great to show his dedication to the Law of Truth (Torah aka The Law) until it had become the largest religious structure in history.  It grew to the point of being able to hold 300,000 people at a time.  The only other structure of any kind in history that could hold as many people was the Circus Maximus in Rome.  It was twenty times the size of the Temple of Diana in Ephesus that Herodotus had listed as the greatest of the seven wonders of the ancient world while the First Temple was still in ruins (Acts 19:26-28).

People had given so much gold for use in the Second Temple to show their dedication to the Law of Truth that it was likely the largest single accumulation of gold in one place in all of history (Matthew 23:16).  It had many beautiful buildings inside of it (Matthew 24:1).  All of these massive and majestic buildings caused it to be considered to be the most beautiful building in the world (Mark 13:1-2).  These buildings were decorated with costly stones and gifts that people had given to show their dedication to the Father of Truth (Luke 21:5).  The rulers and people of Israel had been expanding and decorating the Second Temple for 46 years to show their dedication to the Law of Truth when the Man of Truth celebrated the Feast of Dedication (Chanukah) there (John 2:20).

The people of Israel were so dedicated to the Second Temple that it became even more magnificent than the First Temple that Solomon had built (Haggai 2:9).

However, dedicating the Temple in this manner was not pleasing to the Father of Truth.  He brought about destruction of the First Temple because the people of Israel had been dedicated to the First Temple but not to Him (2 Chronicles 7:19-22).  The Man of Truth said that His Father would also destroy the Second Temple (Matthew 24:1-2).  Not only the Second Temple, but the entire city of Jerusalem, was destroyed because the people of Israel had been dedicated to the Temple but not to the Son that the Father of Truth had sent (Luke 19:41-44).

Their dedication to the Second Temple was useless because they were not dedicated to the Son that was greater than the Temple (Matthew 12:6-8).  In like manner, many that call themselves the Children of Truth are dedicated to their church or synagogue but they are not dedicated to the Father of Truth that they gather to worship in their building!

While buildings to congregate in are necessary and the Father of Truth honors the dedication of buildings to be used for His purposes this by itself is not the kind of dedicating the temple that pleases Him.

No building can contain the Father of Truth for the universe cannot contain Him (1 Kings 8:27).  How could He dwell on the Earth? (2 Chronicles 6:18).

His Son was with Him when He created everything and was like the Father of Truth in every way (John 1:1-3). His Son, the Man of Truth, dwelt among men (John 1:14).  It was the same as if His Father was personally dwelling among men on the Earth (John 14:8-10).

The Spirit of Truth (Ruach HaQodesh aka The Holy Spirit aka The Holy Ghost) dwelt between the Cherubim on the lid of the Ark of the Covenant that was in the Holy of Holies in the First and Second Temple (Isaiah 37:16).  That same Spirit dwelt in the Man of Truth (Luke 4:1). The body of the Man of Truth was the temple that mattered more than the massive and beautiful buildings that had been dedicated to the Father of Truth (John 2:20-22).

The same Spirit of Truth dwells in the Children of Truth (Romans 8:11).  Since the Spirit of Truth dwells in the Children of Truth then each of their bodies is also a temple that matters more than their large and beautiful buildings that have been dedicated to the Father of Truth (1 Corinthians 3:16).  He will destroy those that defile this temple (1 Corinthians 3:17).

How can this temple be defiled?

It can be defiled by sexual sin (Romans 1:24).  Homosexuality is one way to defile this temple (Romans 1:26-27).  However, anyone engaging with sex with a partner of the opposite sex other than their spouse is also defiling the temple (1 Corinthians 6:15-17). 

This temple was made for the purposes of the Father of Truth and not for fornication (1 Corinthians 6:13).   The Children of Truth are dedicating the temple when they flee from fornication (sex outside of marriage) of any kind because fornication destroys the temple (1 Corinthians 6:18).  This is the kind of dedicating the temple that that He desires (1 Thessalonians 4:3).

When the Children of Truth give their bodies over to His purposes by living differently that those that do not know Him then they are dedicating their temple (Romans 12:1-2).  Their bodies are the temple of the Spirit of Truth and they should dedicate their temple to the will of the Father of Truth just like the Man of Truth did when he paid for their sins with his very life (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).  The Children of Truth are dedicating the temple when they put to death all of the evil desires of their bodies (Galatians 5:24).

This dedicating the temple was so important that it was one of only four things that the Gentiles who believed were commanded to continue doing until they could learn more about the Law of Truth (Acts 15:19-21).   Dedicating the temple in this manner was one of the four necessary things that the Gentile believers had to continue doing in order to do well (Acts 15:28-30).  This dedicating the temple was the same for the Gentile believers as fulfilling an oath in the Second Temple was for the Jewish believers (Acts 21:24-26).

This is dedicating the temple is not not a one time ceremony like the dedication of the First Temple or the dedication of a new building to congregate in.  This is dedicating the temple, your body, as a living sacrifice by living according to the reasonable constraints placed upon it by the Father of Truth (Romans 12:1).  This sacrifice of dedicating the temple is done daily like those that the priests presented every morning and evening in the First Temple and Second Temple (1 Peter 2:4-5).

If we are not dedicating the temple by keeping our bodies from sin then we will be destroyed for defiling the temple - even if we have been used to bring the Good News to others (1 Corinthians 9:27)!  Anyone that is not so dedicating the temple will not have a place in His kingdom (Galatians 5:19-21).

If you are a Child of Truth then you may have realized for the first time that you have been defiling the temple and are wondering what you can do about it.  Like the Maccabees, you can put an end to the defilement of the temple by putting an end to your sexual sin like the woman who was caught in adultery (John 8:10-12).  Like the Maccabees, you can clean the temple by removing every filthy thought out of your mind and replacing them with thoughts that are fitting instead (Philippians 4:8).  Like the Maccabees, you can start dedicating the temple a second time because the Man of Truth is your advocate (1 John 2:1-3).

If you are not a Child of Truth then your body is not the temple of the Spirit of Truth.  It will only become the temple of the Spirit of Truth when you come into the House of Truth (Romans 8:9).  After you come into the House of Truth then the Spirit of Truth will give you the ability to start dedicating the temple (Galatians 5:21-23).  You first come into the House of Truth by calling the Man of Truth your boss in every area of your life because you believe that the Father of Truth raised him from the dead (Romans 10:9).

Come into the House of Truth.

The Nuclear Option

Why should divorce be the option of last resort?

On April 12, 1945 Franklin Delanor Roosevelt died, and Harry S. Truman became president of the U.S.  On this day, he learned for the first time of a new weapon, that was being developed.  It was almost two weeks later (April 25, 1945), that Truman learned, that this new weapon was an atomic bomb.  This was the first time, that he had heard of the nuclear option.

Truman was too busy finishing up World War II in Europe, to be too concerned with the nuclear option.  He declared victory over the axis powers in Europe on his 61st birthday (May 8, 1945).  While he was at the Potsdam Conference, he learned that the Trinity test (July 16, 1945) of the atomic bomb had been successful.  He hinted to Joseph Stalin, the leader of Russia, that the nuclear option was now available.  (Stalin however, knew about the nuclear option before Truman, due to the excellent spy network, that he had in the U.S.)

Soon Truman was faced with one of the most difficult decisions in history.

The U.S. had beaten the Japanese back to their home islands with only one half of the force that it had used in Europe and virtually no help from its mostly European allies.  This had been very costly in terms of American lives and resources.  Russia had agreed to invade Japan from the east while the US invaded from the west now that the war in Europe was over.  Japan had dwindling resources and no way to get new resources.  Japan was already defeated for all practical purposes.  Still the Japanese Emperor Hirohito refused to surrender and promised that the Japanese would continue to fight to the last man in order to maintain his position as Emperor.

Truman asked for his options from the military and diplomats.  He had three options.  First, he could continue to wage war as he had up to this point by continuing to heavily bomb Japanese cities with conventional bombs and then invading Japan with the help of Russia.  This option could cost as much as a million American lives as well as many millions of Japanese lives.  Second, Hirohito could remain as a figurehead Emperor.   The previous responses by Hirohito had made made it clear that this was option was very unlikely to work.  The third option was the nuclear option.

Truman wrote in his diary on July 25, 1945 while he agonized over his decision that he had been assured by his military advisers that the nuclear option would only be used against military targets.  Time was running out to avoid a costly invasion of Japan and Hirohito was still wavering on surrendering.  More than that Russia had lost many people when it invaded Germany and wanted to avoid invading Japan if at all possible.  Truman intimated this in a letter that he wrote on July 31, 1945.  It had became clear that the nuclear option was his only remaining option.

So on August 6, 1945 the nuclear option was used on Hiroshima, Japan where it instantly killed 80,000 people and caused another 40,000 people to die within a year.  Many of these people that suffered terribly were innocent children.  Three days later (August 9, 1945), the nuclear option was used again on Nagasaki, Japan where 70,000 people died from it.  On August 13, 1945 the U.S. conducted a conventional bombing campaign on Tokyo where Hirohito lived to let him know that he was not immune from the nuclear option.  The next day (August 14, 1945) Hirohito surrendered and World War II was over.

Truman has been criticized for using the nuclear option but the fact is that it undoubtedly saved lives.  The Japanese had already lost many more people through conventional bombing than when Truman exercised  the nuclear option.  In fact, Japan lost about 25,0000 more people in the conventional bombings of just two cities, Toyama and Tokyo, than when the nuclear option was used against Hiroshima and Nagasaki.  Hirohito and his generals had not cared how many Japanese people died to defend their traditions that included worship of the Emperor.  The nuclear option is what caused Hirohito to finally admit defeat and sign a peace treaty on the USS Missouri.  This treaty included a provision where he admitted that he was not God.

The truth is that Japan had already lost the war months before the nuclear option was ever exercised.  Japan had months to surrender but Hirohito had refused time after time.  Hirohito could have sought peace and avoided compelling Truman to use the nuclear option.  It was the hardness of the heart of Hirohito that turned the nuclear option into the only option.

The nuclear option is so horrific that it has never been used since World War II.  The fact is the potential for damage is so large that everyone that has this option refuses to exercise it for fear of others using it on them.  Using the nuclear option is almost guaranteed to bring about mutually assured destruction. 

There is another nuclear option that is available to many people.  This nuclear option will also cause massive damage and takes generations for people to recover from.  This nuclear option brings death instantly on some levels while it slowly drains the life out of people on other levels.  This nuclear option brings terrible suffering to innocent children.  Like the case of Truman and Hirohito, this nuclear option can be avoided if both parties are willing to seek peace.  The use of this nuclear option is almost guaranteed to bring about mutually assured destruction.

This nuclear option is divorce.

The Father of Truth (YHVH aka God aka THE LORD) hates divorce because it only comes from someone dealing treacherously with their spouse (Malachi 2:16).

This treachery is often a man divorcing his wife when she gets older and is no longer in her prime (Malachi 2:15).  That man is dealing treacherously because he made a covenant to take of her as long as they both should live when she was young and is now breaking that covenant when she is no longer young (Malachi 2:14).

In the marriage covenant the man has promised to provide his wife with food, covering (clothing and shelter) and her marital right (sex) as much as she needed for as long as they both should live  (Exodus 21:10).  Even if his wife had been his slave before they married he was still dealing treacherously with her if he divorced her (Exodus 21:7-8).

Of course, the wife can also deal treacherously with her husband by departing from him through divorce just as surely as Israel dealt treacherously with the Father of Truth by departing from Him (Jeremiah 3:20).

Whoever does not provide their spouse with as much sex as their spouse needs for as long as they both should live to the best of their ability is dealing treacherously with their spouse (1 Corinthians 7:2-4).  A husband and wife can only refrain from sex for a short time by mutual consent to spend more time with the Father of Truth and then they must resume taking care of the sexual needs of each other (1 Corinthians 7:5).  Both husband and wife are to be concerned with taking care of the sexual needs of their spouse because that is part of the covenant they made when they were married (1 Corinthians 7:32-34).

It is not only the parents that suffer from divorce but also the children.  The children suffer terribly because a divorce always leaves them missing their parents and all the benefits that only parents working together can provide.

In a divorce the children usually depart with their mother.  That is why it was very grievous for Abraham to put Hagar out of his camp (Genesis 21:9-11).  That is why Ishmael left with his mother when Abraham put her away (Genesis 21:12-14).  That is why it was so hard for those men that had married idol worshipers from other nations to put away their wives that had refused to quit worshiping idols (Ezra 10:44).

In like manner, the land and the house that was on it stayed with the father.  This because the land belongs to the family of the father while the father is only in charge of its use until he dies.  That is why the Father of Truth said when someone sold the family land that they always had the right to buy it back when they were able (Leviticus 25:23-27).  That is why He said the family land must always go back to the family in the year of Jubilee (Leviticus 25:28).  That is why the He said when a man of Israel had only daughters then his daughters could only marry someone from their own tribe (Numbers 36:6-9).  That is why He said when a man died without any children then his wife had to marry one of his brothers and the first born child would be counted as belonging to her husband that had died (Deuteronomy 25:5-6).

So a divorce leaves the wife like a widow that has no husband and the children are like those that have no father.  This can be seen in the case of when the Father of Truth divorced the nation of Judah (Isaiah 50:1).  After the divorce Judah was like a widow and her children were like the fatherless (Lamentations 5:3).

So when there is a divorce after children have been born the mother now must try to provide the children for in the place of their father.  Worse yet women throughout the ages have only been able to earn about 60 percent of what men can earn.   This is why the Father of Truth required that women only had to give thirty shekels when they took on a vow while men had to give fifty shekels (Leviticus 27:2-4).

Her husband had to provide a house on the land of the family before they could marry just like the Man of Truth (Yeshua HaMashiach aka Jesus Christ) is preparing a place for his bride to live in (John 14:2-3).  So now with only sixty percent of the money that her husband made she has to provide everything that he had provided with one hundred percent of his money plus a house.

This almost always casts the children into poverty.  The children will not be identified with their father and his trade in the community (Matthew 13:55).  The children cannot learn the trade of their father so that they can go about his business when they are old enough (Luke 2:49).  The mother usually cannot make enough money by herself to lay up money for the children like can be done when her husband and her work together in raising the children (2 Corinthians 12:14).  The divorced woman and her children will be afflicted with poverty and in need of help as much as the widow and the fatherless (James 1:27).

The reality of a lack of money requires the divorce woman to spend much of her time working away from the children and that is what brings about the real fall out from divorce. Without a father to correct them it is as if the children were hated by their parents (Proverbs 29:15).  Without their mother around due to trying to provide for their physical needs the children are left to themselves and are bound to do things that will bring her shame (Proverbs 29:15).  Children without the chastening of a father are like those that are not part of the family of their father (Hebrews 12:7-9).

So for the children it is like someone used the nuclear option on their family when the parents get a divorce.  The children are suddenly without a father, a mother that cannot give them adequate attention, their home is gone and so is the money that they are used to having.  The children are damaged in every area of their lives when their parents get a divorce.  They are in lack of money, in lack of discipline, in lack of a deep family identity, in lack of the life skills that lead to success in every endeavor and will usually grow up unable to adequately provide those things for their own children.  This sets off a chain reaction of destruction that lasts for three or four generations.

The reason is that divorce is always born out of treachery and treachery is always sin.  This kind of sin will always bring destruction to the third and fourth generation (Numbers 14:18).

If you want to permanently damage your children, your grandchildren and your great grand children then one of the easiest ways to do so is to get a divorce.  That is one reason that divorce is the nuclear option.

Of course, divorce is not just devastating to the mother and the children. It is devastating to the father as well.  When there is a divorce the father has lost his wife and children.  The father is a often as devastated as Jacob (Ya'acob) was when he believed that he had lost Joseph (Youseph) (Genesis 37:33-35).  This is another reason that divorce is the nuclear option.  Divorce is almost guaranteed to bring about mutually assured destruction.

Since the Father of Truth hates divorce and it causes so much damage you might wonder why anyone would ever use the nuclear option.

To understand this we must first look at where formalized divorce began.  You might be surprised to learn that the Father of Truth is the one that set up formalized divorce.

In the divorce proceedings that He set up a man could initiate a divorce if he found uncleanness in his wife (Deuteronomy 24:1).  The woman then had to depart from his house and could marry another man since she was no longer his wife (Deuteronomy 24:2).  Once she married another man then her first husband could never remarry her because she was now defiled by another man (Deuteronomy 24:3-4).

Why would He set up the nuclear option like this?

The key to understanding that question is understanding the circumstances that justified using the nuclear option.  The uncleanness that allowed a man to initiate divorce was unfaithfulness in his wife.  This could be literal adultery that was physical unfaithfulness to him (Matthew 5:31-32).  This could be spiritual unfaithfulness to the Father of Truth like the foreign wives that worshiped idols in the days of Ezra (Ezra 10:2-3).

The fact is that the nuclear option was less damaging to the family than the other options.  If a woman was physically unfaithful to her husband then one of the other options was to make the sin public so that she and the other man would be stoned to death (Leviticus 20:10).  Of course, the problem is that his wife is the mother of his children and the other man might be the father of some more children.  So this option would actually cause more damage than using the nuclear option.  Joseph (Youseph) sought to divorce Mary (Mariam) quietly because he understood that using the nuclear option was the better option (Matthew 1:18-20).

Even when there is marital unfaithfulness there is a better option than the nuclear option if both parties are willing to take it.  That is the peace option of repentance and reconciliation.  The only reason that anyone ever takes the nuclear option instead of the peace option is because at least one of the parties involved has hardness of heart (Matthew 19:8).

The peace option can only be taken if the one committing adultery is willing to quit committing adultery and return to faithfulness like the Father of Truth tried to persuade the nation of Israel to do  (Jeremiah 3:6-7).  The peace option can only be taken if the one that was wronged is willing to forgive the one that committed adultery so that they can be forgiven of the adultery that they have committed against the Father of Truth (Matthew 6:14-15).

If the party that has committed adultery is unwilling to repent then the nuclear option becomes the only option like when the Father of Truth exercised it against the unrepentant nation of Israel (Jeremiah 3:8).

Of course in order to have the faith to exercise the peace option you must first come into the House of Truth to find real peace (Romans 5:1-2).  You come into the House of Truth when you surrender to the Man of Truth because you believe that the Father of Truth has raised him from the dead (Romans 10:9).

Come into the House of Truth.

Whose Wife Is She?

Could you be committing adultery with your spouse?

I once heard a story about a man who was lost at sea.

He had inherited some land on a point with a magnificent view of the ocean that had a grand house with a tower in the center where one could see for miles in every direction.  The man fell in love with a beautiful woman and they were married.

Not long after their second child was born, the man went to sea on a merchant ship.  Tragically, a tremendous storm arose when the ship had been at sea for many days.  The storm blew the ship far off of its charted course and finally destroyed the ship.  Neither the ship nor anyone on the ship was found despite considerable search and rescue efforts.

After a number of years he was declared legally dead and his wife remarried.  She had two more children with her second husband and they all lived happily in the house that the man lost at sea had left her in his will.

Unexpectedly the man lost at sea was found living alone on a deserted island far from the area where the ship had been presumed to have gone down and was rescued.  The man then returned to his home town and returned to the house that he had inherited from his father.

When the man lost at sea arrived home he discovered that there was another man living in his house with the woman that he had married.  He demanded that this other man and his children leave his house so that he could resume his life with his wife and children.  The other man refused saying that the woman was his wife and the house belonged to her.

Soon the case went to court where the judge ruled very quickly that the house did indeed belong to the man lost at sea since his will was not in effect as long as he was alive.  The real question that remained was that of the woman.

Whose wife was she?

Even though the circumstances have usually been less dramatic than those of the man lost at sea this has been an age old question that has bothered people as long as women have been remarrying.

Fortunately, the Book of Truth (the Bible) gives the truthful answer to this question.  To find the answer we will begin by looking at similar case involving David.

King Saul (Shaul) had promised to give his daughter Merab to David to be his wife, but instead he gave her to another man, that she was in love with (1 Samuel 18:19).  So he gave his daughter Michal, who in love with David, to be his wife instead (1 Samuel 18:20-21).  Later, Michal helped David escape, when her father, King Saul, tried to kill him (1 Samuel 19:11-13).  When King Saul hunted David to kill him, he declared David legally dead, and he gave his daughter Michal to a second husband, named Paltiel (1 Samuel 25:44).

Whose wife was she?

After King Saul was dead, then David demanded his wife Michal be given back to him, since he was no longer as good as dead (2 Samuel 3:14).  The second husband, Paltiel, protested that Michal was his wife, but she was returned to David (2 Samuel 3:15-16).

David claimed Michal as his wife, and so did Paltiel.  In fact, Michal and Paltiel may have had children together, during the many years that King Sual tried to kill David.  David hid from King Saul, and may not have been heard from for years.  Paltiel and Michael may even have believed, that David was dead at times.  But in the end, he returned to claim his wife, like the man lost at sea.

Whose wife was she?

Michal was the wife of David, because David had not died, as King Saul may have made her believe (Romans 7:2).  So what about the entire time that she was married to Paltiel, while David was still alive?

Paltiel and her were committing adultery, the entire time they were married, since David was not dead (Romans 7:3).  Though Paltiel and Michal could have been sinning in ignorance, but they were still sinning, and had to take corrective action to make things right, when it was revealed, that they had been living in sin (Leviticus 4:27-28).

A woman is the wife of her husband, even when people do not know that she is married. 

Pharaoh suffered greatly for intending to make Sarai (Sarah) his wife, even though he was ignorant, that she was the wife of Abram (Abraham) (Genesis 12:17-19).

King Abimelech was as good as dead, when he took Sarah (Sarai) to marry her, even though he was ignorant, that she was the wife of Abraham (Abram) (Genesis 20:2-4).  King Abimelech would have died, if he had not taken corrective action, once he was no longer in ignorance (Genesis 20:5-7).

Even though Isaac (Yitzhak) had lied, about Rebecca (Rivkah) not being his wife, anyone who would have married her, would have been sinning (Genesis 26:9-10).

You might be thinking, how often does things like that happen?

The truth is not very often, but there is another far more common scenario, where the same question must be answered.

Whose wife is she?

One example of this is the case of Herodias.  Herodias had married Herod, after his brother Philip had previously married her (Mark 6:17).  Herodias had obtained a divorce from Philip under Roman law, but according to the Father of Truth (YHVH aka God aka THE LORD) it was not lawful, for Herod to marry her (Mark 6:18).  It was not lawful for Herod to marry her, because she was still the wife of his brother Philip, even though she had obtained government approval to divorce Philip, and marry Herod (Luke 3:19).

Herodias was still the wife of Philip, because Philip was still alive.  (He did not die, until about three years after Yochanon the Mikveh Man (John the Baptist) told Herod, that it was unlawful for him to marry her.)  If Philip had died, then she could have married Herod, because she was free to remarry (1 Corinthians 7:39).

In fact, if Philip had died without leaving any children, then Herod would have been required to have married her by the Law of Truth (Torah aka The Law) (Deuteronomy 25:5-6).  In fact, she would had to have kept marrying his brothers, when one of them died, as long as there were any to marry, until she left a child for each of brother, that she had married (Matthew 22:24-26).

Since Philip was still alive, then Herod could not marry her, for she was still the wife of his brother Philip (Leviticus 18:16).  In fact, they never had any children, because they were under the curse of the Father of Truth, as long as Herod remained married to Herodias, and his brother Philip was still alive (Leviticus 20:21).

So even though Herodias had obtained a government approved divorce, under the law of the land, she was still the wife of Philip.  This is because the government cannot annul any covenant, that the Father of Truth has set up including marriage (Mark 10:7-9).

You might be thinking, that you do not of anyone that has married the same woman as his brother, so how does this apply to most people?

The Pharisees (Parushim) asked the Man of Truth (Yeshua HaMashiach aka Jesus Christ) these same questions.  They want to know if divorce was legal for anyone (Mark 10:2).  They were directed to examine the law that the Father of Truth had given to Moses (Mark 10:3).  This law said that they could write a bill of divorce to end their marriage (Mark 10:4).  The Man of Truth told them that this law of divorce was included because they were hard-hearted but divorce was not the original intention of the Father of Truth (Mark 10:5-6).

In this law of divorce a man could divorce his wife by writing her a bill of divorce if he found uncleanness in her (Deuteronomy 24:1).  Once she was given a bill of divorce under those conditions then she was free to marry another man (Deuteronomy 24:2).

It was the phrase "uncleanness causes a wife to lose favor in the eyes of her husband" that was the real issue.  The majority of the Pharisees (Parashim) maintained that this phrase meant anything that displeased a man qualified so there was divorce for any cause.  In fact, because of this teaching that divorce was legitimate for any cause more than fifty percent of all marriages in Judaea ended in divorce at that time.

One bill of divorce found from that era lists carelessness in seasoning of the gravy as the uncleanness that caused the wife to lose favor in the eyes of her husband.  Also a woman could demand a divorce from her husband and the Pharisees would compel her husband to give it to her.  They would even write a bill of divorce on his behalf if he refused.

The Man of Truth said that this uncleanness was unfaithfulness that would cause a woman to give her body and affections to another man (Matthew 5:32). 

There was also another type of uncleanness that did not apply in the case of those that worshiped the Father of Truth and that was spiritual unfaithfulness to Him.  It was this type of uncleanness in their wives that turned the men of Israel from Him (Judges 3:5-7).  It was for this type of uncleanness that Ezra commanded that the men of Israel to divorce their foreign wives (Ezra 10:10-12).

What if the woman had been divorced under any other conditions or her husband had refused to give her a bill of divorce?  What if she married another man after receiving a divorce on illegitimate grounds?

Whoever married a woman that did not have a legitimate divorce was committing adultery with her because she was still the wife of her former husband (Matthew 19:9).  A woman that did not have a legitimate divorce was committing adultery when she remarried because she was still the wife of her former husband (Mark 10:10-12).  Anyone that is marries someone that has an illegitimate divorce or that marries again without a legitimate divorce is in an adulterous relationship because she is still the wife of her former husband (Luke 16:18).

Because a woman is still the wife of her husband unless he divorces her for unfaithfulness the Man of Truth has commanded that a wife to not depart from their husband (1 Corinthians 7:10).  If she does depart then she must not remarry because she is still his wife and will be committing adultery if she should remarry but the same thing applies to her husband (1 Corinthians 7:11).

In the case of a Child of Truth (one who obeys the Father of Truth because they love Him) that has married someone that has not came into the House of Truth then they are not to divorce their spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12-13).  They need to stay married for the sake of their children (1 Corinthians 7:14).  If their spouse then leaves them for following the Man of Truth then the divorce was over spiritual uncleanness and they are free to remarry because the spiritual uncleanness of the one that did not come into the House of Truth made the divorce legitimate (1 Corinthians 7:15).  The goal of the Child of Truth should never be to seek a divorce from their spouse but to bring their spouse into the House of Truth (1 Corinthians 7:16).

So what are you supposed to do if you realize that are married to the wife or husband of someone else?

First of all you must recognize that you will not be saved if you continue in this adulterous relationship (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).  Your flesh will want the adulterous relationship to continue (Galatians 5:19).  Continuing in this adulterous relationship will bring the judgment of the Father of Truth upon you (Hebrews 13:4).

Secondly, you must recognize that you must repent from this sin. It is not enough for you to just confess that you have been committing adultery with the wife or husband of another person - you must take corrective action (Matthew 3:6-8).  You must end this adulterous relationship now that you are no longer ignorant that you have been sinning against the Father of Truth (Acts 17:30). 

Finally, realize that this sin is not unforgivable if you will repent.  The blood of the Man of Truth was shed to cleanse you from all sin when you repent including being married to another man's wife or another woman's husband (1 John 1:7).

The Man of Truth will give you the strength to repent if you will come into the House of Truth (Philippians 4:13).  You can come into the House of Truth by submitting to the Man of Truth in every area including this area because you believe that the Father of Truth raise him from the dead (Romans 10:9).

Come into the House of Truth.