Married In Adultery

Can people be married in adultery?

Usually when people think of someone committing adultery, they think of a married person having sex with someone other than their spouse.  They do not think that people can be committing adultery when they are having sex with their spouse.

Is this view of adultery correct?  Or can people commit adultery with their spouse?

In order to answer this question, we have to understand the basics of marriage, adultery, divorce, and remarriage.  The best way to understand those things is to see what the Book of Truth (The Bible) says about them.

The Basics of Marriage:

The Father of Truth (YHVH aka God aka THE LORD) created men and women to fill the Earth with people (Genesis 1:27-28).  He started by creating the man (Genesis 2:7-8).

However, it was not good for the man to be alone without an adequate helper (Genesis 2:18-20).  So the Father of Truth created a woman to help the man (Genesis 2:21-22).

Then the man married the woman and set the foundational rule that people leave their parents to form new families with their spouse when they are married (Genesis 2:23-24).  There was nothing that the married couple kept hidden from each other (Genesis 2:25).

Later the married couple broke the commandment of the Father of Truth and shame came into their marriage (Genesis 3:6-7).  So they were afraid to be in His presence because of their sin (Genesis 3:8-12).

Since the woman was fooled in disobedience, then women would have pain in all things related to childbirth while strongly desiring to have sex with their husbands and being placed under the authority of their husbands to keep them from being fooled again (Genesis 3:13-16).  Since the man willing obeyed his wife instead of the Father of Truth, every man would have to work hard to provide even the barest necessities for his family until the day he died (Genesis 3:17-19).

So wives are to obey their husbands, just as their husbands are to obey the Man of Truth (Yeshua HaMashiach aka Jesus Christ) instead of his wife (Ephesians 5:22-24).  Their husbands are to love them and protect them from the deceiver just the Man of Truth has done for their husbands (Ephesians 5:25-27).

In like manner, husbands and wives are supposed to have sex with each other and only each other (1 Corinthians 7:2).  This is a commandment of the Father of Truth and not keeping it is the same as stealing from their spouse (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

So, married couples must give as much sex as their spouses need when it is the right time for love.  If they do not, then they are liars and thieves.

This commandment concerning sex is the foundation of marriage.  There are other obligations as well that are spelled out in the Ketubah (marriage covenant) contained in the Book of Truth.

The Basics of Adultery:

So, what happens when people have sex outside of a marriage between a man and his woman?  What if a wife has sex with a man who is not her husband or a man has sex with a woman who is not his wife?

Any time that people have sex other than the right partnership for love then they are committing fornication.  Adultery is really a specific type of fornication.

The Father of Truth commands that people do not commit adultery just like He commands that they do not commit murder or theft (Exodus 20:13-15).  Committing adultery is as serious as committing murder and demands the same penalty of death for both people involved (Leviticus 20:10).

Like murder, no one can be executed for committing adultery unless there are at least two witnesses and those witnesses have to be the first to begin the execution (Deuteronomy 17:6-7).  For this reason, the Man of Truth could not condemn the woman who was caught in adultery to death after her accusers left (John 8:4-11).

The Basics of Divorce

What about if two people commit adultery and there is only one witness?  Or when there are no witnesses?

A man who commits adultery has defiled himself with sexual uncleanness even if there are no witnesses (Leviticus 18:20).  If a woman commits adultery, but is not caught, then she has still defiled herself with sexual uncleanness (Numbers 5:12-14).

Even though the woman was not caught when she committed adultery, she has still defiled herself with sexual uncleanness and is under the curse of the Father of Truth (Numbers 5:19-21).  Her husband has done nothing wrong if he suspected his wife has committed adultery and sought to determine the truth of the matter – even if she was innocent (Numbers 5:29-31).

If the woman had defiled herself with sexual uncleanness, then her husband can give her a bill of divorcement and send her out of his house (Deuteronomy 24:1).  This is the only cause for a man to give his wife a bill of divorce (Matthew 5:31-32).

If a woman leaves her husband without him divorcing her for sexual uncleanness, then she has dealt treacherously with him (Jeremiah 3:20).  If a man divorces his wife who has not committed adultery, then he has dealt treacherously with her (Malachi 2:14).

If a wife who is in covenant with the Father of Truth tries to get her husband to worship any god besides the Father of Truth, then her husband is to have her tried in accordance to the Law of Truth and then executed (Deuteronomy 13:6-9).  If people breaks their covenant with the Father of Truth by worshiping any other god, then they have committed adultery against the Father of Truth and He will divorce them (Jeremiah 3:8-9).

A man also breaks his covenant with Father of Truth by marrying a woman who does not worship the Father of Truth, who will cause the man to commit adultery against Him by enticing him to worship her idols (Nehemiah 13:25-27).  In those circumstances, the man must divorce his wife rather than commit adultery against the Father of Truth (Ezra 10:2-3).

Lastly, if a man or woman comes into covenant with the Father of Truth, but their spouse does not, then they are not to divorce their unbelieving spouse who is willing to live with them (1 Corinthians 7:12-13).  However, their unbelieving spouse is not willing to live with them, then they are let the unbelieving spouse depart from them as if there was a divorce to keep them from committing adultery against the Father of Truth by being enticed to worship another god (1 Corinthians 7:15).

The Basics Of Remarriage

If there is a divorce due to physical adultery by a wife or to prevent spiritual adultery against the Father of Truth by a believer, then are those involved in the divorce allowed to remarry?  Are there other circumstances where remarriage is allowed?

If a man divorces his wife due to physical adultery, then she can marry another man without committing adultery against her former husband (Deuteronomy 24:1-2).  However, if she does this then she can no longer return to her former husband – even if her latter husband dies – because she has defiled herself with another man (Deuteronomy 24:3-4).

Also, if the husband dies childless, then his wife is required to marry his brother to give him a heir through his brother (Deuteronomy 25:5-6).  So once the husband dies, then his wife is free to remarry without committing adultery against him (Romans 7:2-3).

In fact, a widow must remarry to avoid fornication if she cannot control herself (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).  She must also remarry if she is less than sixty years old and cannot support herself without a husband (1 Timothy 5:9-14).

However, if a man divorces his wife for any reason other than adultery and she marries another man, then they are committing adultery against her former husband (Matthew 5:32).  If a man divorces his wife for any other reason and marries another woman, then they are committing adultery against his former wife (Matthew 19:9).

This is even true when a woman divorces her husband as allowed under Roman Law (Mark 10:11-12).  This is why John the Baptist (Yochanon the Mikveh Man) told Herod that it was not lawful for Herodias to be his wife after she got a divorce from his brother Philip under Roman Law, because she was still married to his brother Philip according to the Law of Truth since Philip had not given her a bill of divorce (Matthew 14:3-4).

So, these two were married in adultery according to the Father of Truth.  The same is true whenever anyone marries someone from a divorce for any reason other than adultery.

So, what should someone do who is married in adultery?

John the Baptist preached that people must repent to enter be fit for the kingdom of the Father of Truth (Matthew 3:1-2).  He said the only way to escape the wrath of the Father of Truth on sin was through actions that showed true repentance from sin (Matthew 3:7-8).

Therefore, he warned Herod that he was transgressing the Law of Truth by being married to Herodias -the wife of his brother Philip (Mark 6:17-18).  If Herod remained married to Herodias, then he would not have a part in the kingdom of the Father of Truth (Galatians 5:19-21).

Herodias was like Michal, who had married another man in accordance with the law of the land -even though her husband David had never given her a bill of divorce in accordance to the Law of Truth (1 Samuel 25:44).  So, King David demanded that Michal stop being married in adultery and return to him, since she was still his wife under the Law of Truth (2 Samuel 3:14-16).

So, a couple married in adultery must end the marriage even if they had children together (Ezra 10:44).  Those married in adultery must repent by ending their sin just like the woman caught in adultery (John 8:4-11).

Do not be deceived – anyone who remains married in adultery will not have a part of the kingdom of the Father of Truth (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).  If they do not repent of being married in adultery, then they will be cast into the Lake of Fire like all other fornicators (Revelation 21:8).

No matter how many times a woman remarries, there is no confusion about whose wife is she, according to the Book of Truth.  As shown above, she is married in adultery until her first husband either divorces her for her whoredom, or she returns to him, or he dies.

What if one or both of them are unhappy in their marriage?

Whoever has made an oath to the Father of Truth – like people do in their marriage vows to remain in their marriage for better or worse and forsake all others to be with their spouse – must perform whatever they have vowed (Numbers 30:2).  The Father of Truth has no pleasure in those who do not keep their wedding vows and it would have been better to have never made them than to break them (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5).

A couple simply must do everything they promised in their wedding vows – letting “I will” mean “I will” (Matthew 5:32-37).  Everyone who does otherwise comes under the condemnation of the Father of Truth (James 5:12).

For this reason, the Man of Truth commands that a wife to not leave her husband and her husband to not divorce her– even if they are unhappy (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).  Married couples are going to have times of trouble (1 Corinthians 7:28).

If a woman should disobey the Man of Truth by leaving her husband, then she must not marry another man, but instead must seek to be reconciled to her husband (1 Corinthians 7:11).  In like manner, the husband must not remain bitter against his wife (Colossians 3:19).s

The Father of Truth never intended for people to ever let anything except death to end their marriage (Matthew 19:4-6).  He only commanded that a husband could divorce his wife for sexual uncleanness due to the hardness of the hearts of people (Matthew 19:7-9).

If one of them commits adultery, then the will of the Father of Truth is that they repent and their spouse forgives them (Matthew 6:14-15).  If they repent, then their spouse needs to be tender hearted and forgive them as they were forgiven for the sake of the Man of Truth (Ephesians 4:32).

The Man of Truth was punished for their adultery and raised from the dead for their justification (Romans 4:25).  The Man of Truth took the curse for their adultery upon himself when he was hung on a tree (Galatians 3:13). 

If they repented of their adultery, then the blood of the Man of Truth washed away their sexual uncleanness (1 John 1:6-7).  If they confessed their guilt to the Man of Truth instead trying to justify their adultery, then he has made them clean (1 John 1:8-9).

So, come into the House of Truth by surrendering everything to the Man of Truth because you believe that the Father of Truth raised him from the dead (Romans 10:9).  His body will never be married in adultery (Ephesians 5:30-32).

Come into the House of Truth!